Bob Ulm has worked in Lima and Delphos radio for decades. Recently, he went through a nightmare that no parent should have to go through: his son Eric, died of cancer at age 38. Here’s Bob’s take on life, love, and family:
I have been thinking for some time how I can put in a few words the life experience I have had since the diagnosis November 7th of last year that our 38-year-old son Eric had pancreas and liver cancer of a type that could be treated but would never be cured.
I will not try to tell you the depths of sadness that our family has experienced when Eric passed away last Tuesday morning. If you have lost a son or daughter, I won’t tell you anything you haven’t experienced, and if you haven’t there are no words I might write that help to make the understanding easier.
Our son experienced the happiest 4 years of his life with his wife Wendy and step-daughters Tylynn and Matti, He suffered incredibly through rounds of chemotherapy, but often fibbed to his dad about the pain he was feeling, hoping I guess that I wouldn’t worry.
The care he received from his wife Wendy, and his mom (my wife Kathy), was impossible to describe except to say that they poured their entire beings into his care in a way I have never witnessed before.
I realized during Eric’s final days on earth that my life had changed from worrying about a newscast airing on time, or a sales deal wrapping up as expected, to counting the breaths our son took each minute. That would change me forever.
I am trying my best to focus the anger that I feel at cancer which robbed us far too soon of a son, father and brother and my second best friend in the world next to my wife.
I have few answers to the question why this had to happen.
I do have a suggestion though. If you have a child or a spouse give them a big hug and tell them how much you love them because you never know when that chance will be gone.
Thanks to all of you who have been supportive through this long process, and to those of you who have donated items or plan to join us for a benefit for Eric’s family this Saturday night at the Delphos Knights Of Columbus Hall.
It is in times like these, that you find out how important family is, and who your friends are.
That’s the way I see it.